Stop it, Rihanna

Hi, My name is Joi and I’m a pop culture addict.  I have been one for most of my life.  In fact, I can’t remember a time when pop culture wasn’t important to me.  One of the more embarrassing areas of my addiction is pop music.  I am obsessed with it. I know all the words, the back stories to most songs and much of the gossip that was woven in with the releases.

Tangentially, I consider myself a progressive, probably more so than most.  I really don’t care what you do in your house, your bedroom, etc.  Try not to hurt anyone without their consent. This is, of course, with the caveat that the persons participating are A.) Adults and B.) Capable of granting consent without coercion.   And while I don’t care what you are doing behind closed doors, I would prefer if you just kept it to yourself.  I am happy you are happy being an exhibitionist, just please don’t do it around me.

So, given all of the above, I have a huge problem with many pop artists of late and their disregard for the public space and their audience demographics.  The airwaves, specifically, are supposed to be family friendly space.  Why do we bleep curse words, but not content that talks about abuse?  How does that work?

Some examples?  Eminem talk about tying a girl to a bed and lighting the house on fire.   Rihanna’s new song S&M has tons of explicit descriptions of pain/fetish play, and she has an older song about Russian Roulette.  Bruno Mars has songs about being bored and choosing marriage for the evening, and another that describes multiple ways he would kill himself in order to prevent the object of his affection from leaving.  And just pick randomly from the Brittney Spears catalog lately – threesomes seem to be one of her favorite topics, but who can forget Hit Me Baby and Slave for You, among others.

Eminem is a difficult example, as he would never posit himself as targeting a younger audience.  But Rihanna, Brittney and Bruno Mars – they are clearly targeting the tweenie boppers and their song lyrics are insanely inappropriate.  I don’t expect their music to be all Pollyanna, but you cannot have your cake and eat it too (altho, I DO hate that cliche – why CAN’T you eat your cake that you have?).  You shouldn’t market yourself and stylize yourself for a younger audience, cashing in on their lucrative wallets, and then pretend that your music is not intended for their ears.  Or at least not be flabbergasted when someone calls you out on it.

Yeah yeah, I hear what you are thinking, that innuendo has been part of songs forever.  I agree and I think it is fine.  My problem is that we have left innuendo land and are now knee-deep in explicit description land.  What happened to nuance, metaphor, allusion, subtlety?

Those of you who know me offline know that I am far from a prude.  But I know how to separate my worlds and how to draw lines for appropriate behavior.  why is it so hard for millionaire pop stars with a gaggle of handlers?

I have been a children’s content producer for years.  We have an ethical responsibility to our audience.  In the online world, we have tons of watchdog organizations making sure we stay on the straight and narrow in the ethics arena.  It is fair for me to bring this up.

Will I change it? – uh, probably not.  Do I sound like a geiser screaming for the kids to get off the lawn? – kinda.  But if you can’t rant on your blog, gosh darn it, where can you!

The Social Network… meh

Just a short post to point out a conversation I have had with a bunch of friends about the movie, The Social Network.  After I watched it, I didn’t feel like I had watched a cinematic masterpiece.  I couldn’t see what everyone was freaking out about.  It was a fine couple hours, but really, what’s the big deal?

When I dug a bit deeper, I figured out that it was because I knew that story, really well.  Not just of Facebook, but of tons of late aughts start-ups and silicon valley gossip.  I read those stories in Valley Wag and Tech Crunch and all the other online rags as they happened.  I’ve eaten tacos with Twitter execs while discussing COPPA fines and defended multi-million dollar business plans to tech VCs.  I’ve felt the rush of hope with new bridge funding and the despair of multiple companies closing.  I’ve become jaded of this industry.  Almost bored with it’s dramas.

Maybe that’s why I have turned my focus to projects that have a little more “oompf” in the heart-department.  I want to be proud of my work on a societal level, not just career and/or bank account.  You would think children’s properties would be a fair choice, but oy!  don’t get me started on some of the Television Execs and Licensing people I’ve met. :P

That’s not to say I don’t still pay attention a little.  I grew up a gal in America – I’ve been trained to absorb gossip, whether I like it or not.  At least I am getting better at the KIND of gossip I am absorbing (read: Please brain, less Kardashians!)

What I’m thankful for

Last year around this time, my life was a bit complicated, so I sat down and thought about what I was thankful for.  Yeah, cliche, but it helped me a great deal.  So I decided to do it again this year.  It’s a shame I only force myself to think about what I am thankful for in an organized fashion once a year.  Kinda like how I formally review my goals at the beginning of the year.  Well at least both happen regularly.  Maybe I will add to my goal list to increase the frequency… Regardless, here are my publicly sharable list of thankful things for right now (feel free to not read, gets a bit sappy):

- My family – they are numerous and crazy, mostly don’t share my world view, don’t appreciate good restaurants and live in the suburbs.  But they are so amazing and I am totally head over heels in love with all of them, so much that I can overlook political, religious, ideological and all other difference (as much as possible).

- My siblings – holy crap, they are great.  I am the oldest of 5, all of us with completely different personalities.  But we are all so close and there for each other through good and bad, no matter what.

- My parents – I love the relationship we have as adults.  They love me as much as I love them and I am so happy.

- My new nephew – OMG, he is amazing.  I understand that others have felt this before and now I understand.  He is so cool and cute and great.  Not sure on the smarts yet, but I am gonna go out on a limb and say he will be brilliant.  I love being an aunt and can’t wait for my siblings to reproduce more.

- My dog – Linus is the best dog.  Many agree with me. I am so glad he travels well, because this gypsy lifestyle would suck without him.

- My friends – As a professional networker by habit, I know a great deal of people.  But the people I choose to call “my friends” are really the cream of the crop.  I have “crews” in the different cities I travel to, some of them vacation buddies, some of the them weekend dinner friends, some of them baby mommas/daddies that I steal time with when our schedules permit.  But I am truly thankful for each and every of them and glad they are in my life.

- My job – I love National Geographic Animal Jam.  I love Smart Bomb.  I love Salt Lake and DC.  I love my team.  I feel very lucky to be able to work with them each day and do the cool work we do.  We rock and the kids are starting to realize that too.

- My industry – I heart all you folks.  You are all so passionate about kids and their happiness and safety.  We fight the good fight (and sometimes the bad fights and nasty fights) but we keep our heads up and focused on the light at the enbd of the tunnel.

- My drive/ambition – Yeah, it’s huge and scares even me.  But it has brought me so much over the years that even though I am getting tired lately, I keep going.

Cool, that’s a happy list.  File it away til next year… :)

That’s tech learning?

Saw this and had to repost:

My son is a sixth grader in a district where I don’t teach, so I always try to pry info out of him about what he is up to (no small feat, with a 12 year old boy). I’m interested, and yes, sort of competitive, too. Yesterday, I asked him how his six-week “exploratory” block in technology went for him. My question came on the heels of his shocking (to me) remark that “Tomorrow, we get to play video games on the computers for 48 minutes.”

Now, I know that 12 year olds are not always that reliable for the entire tale, so I listened to him explain what they did for six weeks. But even after some thorough grilling, it became clear that “technology” is the wrong word for this exploratory block. They learned some typing skills and, as he said, “He taught us how to do shortcuts in Microsoft Word …. and we played online games.” And then, “Oh, he showed us how to put an image in Word. But we all already knew how to do that.”

“And if you didn’t, it would take you … what …. five seconds to figure it out?” is what I muttered back. Shortcuts for Word? That’s technology in the classroom? I am beside myself with frustration that this is the best exposure to technology offered to a sixth grader? I’ll bet that curriculum is 10 years old and hasn’t changed a bit since then. What about creating? Composing? Publishing? Exploring (not games)? Web 2.0? There is a movement underway, folks, and if you can yourself a technology teacher, you better get on board. I do show my own children a lot of technology (although I should write about that someday now that he is entering the ‘Can I have a Facebook’ phase and we try –not always successfully — to balance access to our technology with limited screen time). Here at home, we make movies, create music and do more than most, I am sure. But what about those other kids who don’t have parents who are teachers into technology? What about them? Shortcuts and image placement in Word is the best we can do for them? I’d even be happy if the gaming was them inventing their own games or something of value. Instead, they are going to sites that are probably bombarded with advertisements in order to play a simplistic flash game. Peace (in a huge sigh), Kevin

Source: dogtrax.edublogs.org, Posted on: Jun 18, 2010 09:31 AM by dogtrax

My talk at Pratt

Hi All,

I was asked to do a short talk at Pratt Institute, so I decided to share my slides.  Basically I wanted to have a short visual aid to a myriad of mainstream, large and successful properties and brands that did/do well interacting and connecting with their audience through online community and fan engagement .

Let me know if you would like more info or examples or if you have any questions.

Oldy but goody links

So I was clearing out my favorites on Twitter and thought I would aggregate some of the random old articles I had saved to look at later….. way later.  Why not put them here, right? ;)

Learning

Big Thinkers: Henry Jenkins on New Media and Implications for Learning and Teaching

Why playing in the virtual world has an awful lot to teach children

Is Video Game School Training a Generation of Professional Princess Rescuers?

The Changing Views of the Online Experience – from Fears to Possibilities

Raising Future People (aka kids)

Commentary on: Are you raising a Douchebag? Your indulgent parenting is spawning a generation of entitled hipster brats

A Healthy Day Starts in the Classroom with School Breakfast Programs

Online Safety

Twitter Safety: Keeping young people safe on Twitter

Social Media etc

15 Ways to Measure Return on Engagement (ROE) of Social Media

Game Design for Social Networks

Why Community Management is still misunderstood

What is Social CRM? An Introduction

2010: The Year of the Community Manager

35 social media KPIs to help measure engagement

Play!

Playtime can teach us all

Backyard Adaptations Of Video Game Classics

National Geographic Animal Jam – Open Beta!

Hey everyone!

The reason I haven’t posted in forever is because I am hard at work on our newly launched project (albeit in open beta) National Geographic Animal Jam!

The day is finally here to live wild with National Geographic Animal Jam™. Now you and your kids can be among the first to monkey around in this virtual world of discovery and fun. Combining the chance for kids to be the animal of their choice with access to National Geographic’s limitless libraries, National Geographic Animal Jam will open your child’s eyes to a world of adventure and exploration like no other virtual world out there. Your kids will soon realize that they’re having tons of fun in the coolest jungle around!

Two years in the making, National Geographic Animal Jam represents an ongoing creative collaboration between the great minds at National Geographic and the gaming gurus at Smart Bomb Interactive. The goal of this virtual world is to provide a fun, exciting, and safe environment for kids to play online, as well as inspire them to explore and protect the natural world outside their doors.

So come prowl around inside National Geographic Animal Jam. With lush tropical kingdoms, amazing adventures, and fascinating facts in store—plus the chance to live it up as your favorite animal—mommy and daddy bears (and their cubs alike) will find a wild world worth discovering!

National Geographic Animal Jam – Jump into the Jungle Today!

We are tweaking and polishing through the summer, and as such, it is completely free to play through the open beta! When we have our Grand Opening this fall, we will offer premium subscription content, but the game will always have free to play features.

Check it out and let me know what you think!

Who moderates your moderators?

Last year, we wrote about a rather straightforward case where a nutritional supplement company had sued the operators of the forum bodybuilding.com, because of some unflattering comments posted in the forum. The court quickly tossed out the case on Section 230 grounds, noting that a site is not liable for the actions of its commenters. However, Eric Goldman alerts us to the latest in that case, which is a bit more troubling. After having the case transferred to a different court, the supplement maker used a new argument, claiming that it was false advertising and that since a third-party “moderator” posted one of the messages, the site is now responsible. That’s basically how the company tried to get around Section 230.

The court, unfortunately, seems to have agreed. While it does note that bodybuilding.com has Section 230 immunity despite having third party moderators, it allows for the possibility that since one of the moderators may have posted one of the messages in question, the moderator could be considered “a representative of the site.” This goes against a whole series of case law, which Goldman lists in his post, and could create all sorts of problems for sites that use volunteer or third party moderators. Of course, this was just in response to the motion to dismiss, so the court could come back and say that third party moderators don’t make a site liable, but it’s worth paying attention to this case. As Goldman notes: “I really can’t imagine Web 2.0 succeeding without a robust cadre of site admins and moderators helping self-police an online community.”

If A Site Uses Third-Party Moderators Who Do Something Bad, Does The Site Lose Safe Harbors?

There is a lively debate around this on the article page.  Where I come down on the issue is a bit of a function of my corner of the industry.  I would NEVER have unpaid moderators on my sites for kids.  Too much of a liability.  If I do have 3rd party moderators, they are expected to comply with my high standards and I will do heavy QA to make sure of it.

Interesting topic, none the less. :)

Math is not linear

I was lamenting my disdain for Powerpoint to a co-worker and he told me about Prezi.com. I saw a fabu presentation build on here last year, totally forgot about the site. I went to their gallery area nad was of course drawn to the presentation called “Math is linear.”

I since have posted this presentation on all the social media sites I frequent, but the more I go through this presentation, the more I realize it really encapsulates many of my thoughts around education reform and the problems the US specifically has when it thinks about how education and learning needs to happen.

So check it out. Whether it’s for the nerdy Math rant, the nerdy Education reform implications or the nerdy Graphic pleasure of it’s design and animations. All in all, a nice nerdy treat. (also – tons of “fall down the rabbit hole” fun with other math and random other presentations.)

Math is not linear on Prezi

How to Make Salami or Online Community

I just got back from vacation. Well, technically I am typing this on the plane coming back from vacation. Those who know me, know I am not a fan of vacation. I do what I love and am perfectly happy with the social activities woven into my job. But I had this planned for a long time, so I went through with it. It ended up being a harrowing vacation, filled with stress, a couple of injuries and too much intermittent travel, but I also had some amazing experiences, saw places I had never seen and got to see and spend time with a ton of old friends. So it netted out fine in the long run. :)

One couple that I was lucky enough to spend time with have been living in Florence, Italy for almost a year now. They are both huge advocates of the slow food and eat locally/sustainably movements and one of them is a chef by profession. This is a very big trend in my home city of Chicago too, so we talked a bunch about it.

One point that we spent a bunch of time on was the effect that food had on culture. In Italy, there is a fear that the influence of other cultures is making their children stray from valuing the food culture that the individual regions and communities have had for generations. There is even a community in Tuscany that has outlawed non-Italian ethnic food stores/restaurants from the city center to help curb these feared effects.

The chef recently spent a month working on a rural farm in the mountains on the border of Tuscany and learned that region’s art of artisan sausage making. While chatting about the intricacies of sausage craft might bore some to death, I was fascinated and we talked at length about it, even spending one afternoon visiting the farm where he worked. He explained that each region has special breeds of pigs and cows and special preparation techniques for their sausage – some subtle, some drastically different. Each region values their style and is fiercely proud of it. The chef felt very privileged to be able to study at the saluminera that he did, as our FDA regulations will not allow the same procedures in the states.

You see, we require pasteurizing as part of the process for most of our food, including sausage. I am all about preventing sickness and spread of bad bacteria, but this is one of the cases where our American tendency to go overboard may have had a negative effect. When you pasteurize, you homogenized. You take out the bacteria that could make the meat (or milk, etc) bad. But you also speed up processes that nature (and gifted chefs over the years) have perfected, specifically in curing the meat. The slower process (and not killed bacteria) allows the meat to develop different flavors that just can’t be found through the pasteurizing process. Those subtleties in the different regions can be impossible to replicate.

To bring this to a community professional point of view (you didn’t think I would/could, did you?), I see this same tendency happening in our industry. I am often asked for “best practices” and “templates” that a brand or company can use to implement community into their marketing strategy. To a point, this is totally possible. Those of us who have been doing this for a while can write a privacy policy or moderation manual in our sleep and can spot a COPPA violation in a registration flow within seconds. But more and more often, this leads to the assumption that there is a “one size fits all” solution to community. Nothing could be further from the truth.

Just like salami, it’s the subtleties that make all the difference. In sausage, maybe it’s an extra couple months of aging, or the way they tie the string, or special kind of fennel they use that has been grown in that region for years. In community, it’s the vision of the brand/property, the age of the users, the ethos and spirit of the game/world/community. Treating every online community the same is a sure fire way to lose the possibility of having that magic in your community. And it’s the magic that the members want.

Now I am an American, a midwesterner even. I can enjoy a homogenized summer sausage and store-brand cheddar plate at party as much as the next person. ;) And many cookie-cutter techniques work just fine for basic online communities and can serve their purpose (you see this especially in customer service communities). But those truly special communities, the ones that last and last, or the ones we talk about years after we stop participating, or are still talked about after they close down – chances are, they had a community management vision reminiscent of a small artisanal sausage maker in Tuscany. If you put the same care and integrity into building your community as those tiny sausage makers do, you will reap the same kind of benefits.

And if you are ever in Pisa/Florence area of Italy, take a day trip to Pavana in Sambucca di Pastoia and visit the restaurant, Laciosteria, and butcher shop owned by the Savigni family. It’s a truly inspiring (and delicious) trip.